Quit Being An “Askhole”.

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Don’t look at me all funny. You know exactly what that title means.
And just for the sake of that one person out there who doesn’t have any idea of what an “Askhole” is, here is the definition:


You know these people, you probably have a few of them in your circle of friends right now.
These are the people who are always having drama (a.k.a. Issues) in their lives.
These are the people who want to talk for hours and hours about their problems and then when you give them some advice they usually come back with something like this:
  • Do you really think that will help?
  • Man, that sounds so hard to do.
  • I don’t know if I could actually do that.
  • I don’t want people to get mad at me if I do that.
  • I don’t really think I can make a real change right now in my life.
  • I wish I could do that, but…
  • Do you really think “I” could do that?
  • Let me think about that for a little while and I’ll get back to you.
  • Etc….
This list could go on forever…. and ever….
The point is they don’t ever really want to take any Action to solve the problems they just want to Bit$% and moan about their problems and they want someone (you) to listen.
Here are the real answers we should give to the excuses the Askhole’s gave above.
Do you really think that will help? (Yes, otherwise I wouldn’t have given you the advice.)
Man, that sounds so hard to do. (It is hard, that’s the only way you are ever going to change.)
I don’t know if I could actually do that. (Of course, you can’t actually do it because you never really wanted to do it in the first place.)
I don’t want people to get mad at me if I do that. (Who cares what other people think? and if you’re looking for another excuse well guess what… You just found it.)
I don’t really think I can make a real change in my life right now. (Of course you can’t, because you’ve been quitting on yourself for so long now you don’t even know how to wipe your own a$$ anymore. Let alone how to make a real change to your life. Plus we also know that’s going to WORK to make a real change to your life and we all know how that four letter word is even worse than the “F” word nowadays.)
I wish I could do that, But… (But your a lame a$$ person, so what should we expect from you, right.)
Do you really think “I” could do it? (If I didn’t think you could do it would I recommend you do it? Of course, you could do it. The problem is you have to want to do it or it’s pointless to even have this conversation.)
Let me think about that for a little while and I’ll get back to you. (Which is code for it will be at least 2 weeks, 3 months, 6 months, a year, 5 years, or a decade, but they never really are going to make a decision. They don’t even have any intentions of making a decision, they only really wanted you to listen and waste your time.)
I for one am in the process of cutting Askhole’s out of my life. My life is too short and time is too precious to keep wasting it on Askhole’s.
Just imagine what your life could be like if you started cutting Askhole’s out of your life.
How does the old saying go…
“Fool me once, shame on you; Fool me twice, shame on me.” — George Horne
Everybody gets one time that’s a given, but believe me, going forward to my friends there won’t be a second time.
*Leave me a comment below and let me know how you’ve chosen to deal with the Askhole’s in your life. It’s always great to share tips and tactics with others when it comes to how to deal with life’s little problems.

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