If You Lack Self Confidence, Think About This…

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Today what I want to talk to you about are two things:

1. Self Confidence
2. Value

I’ve been thinking a lot recently about both of these concepts and it struck me the other day that they might actually be requirements of each other.

I recently talked to someone and they stressed to me over and over in our conversation how they just didn’t have any self-confidence.

They couldn’t do this or that because they didn’t have self-confidence.

I asked them why they felt they didn’t have any self-confidence?

They gave me many reasons and many excuses as to why they felt they had lost their confidence or how others had taken it away from them.

In reality, after I listened to them get it all out when they were done I said: “But if all of those things you just mentioned were gone or out of the picture, then why wouldn’t you still have any self-confidence?”

They paused… looked down… then they said “I don’t know.. I guess then I could have some self-confidence.”

I said, “If that is truly the way you think then there is no reason why you can’t have self-confidence right here and now.”

They looked at me with bewilderment on their face and said: “I don’t get what you are trying to say.”

I told them “I’ve just sat here with you and listen to all of the reasons and excuses as to why you can’t have any self-confidence. Those are all gone now, you’ve got them out of your system, and they are now gone.”

So where do you go from here…

They looked at me and said, “I don’t know, I don’t have any excuses left, and I don’t have anyone left to blame.”

I looked at them and said “huh… maybe then you can start believing in yourself a little more.”

I smiled at them and said “you realize this has always been “you” right.”

You’re the only one who can decide if you believe in yourself or not.

It really doesn’t matter if I believe in you or not if you don’t believe in yourself.

Then they asked me “well how can I start having some self-confidence in myself from this point forward?”

I asked them “tell me what value you feel you bring to the table.”

Which they replied to with “Value… I don’t think I bring any value to the table. I’m just me.”

Therein lies the problem my friends.

Value and self-confidence go hand in hand.

If you don’t value yourself, don’t expect anyone else to value you either.

If you don’t have any value or know what your value is, how could you ever hope to have any self-confidence?

(Please don’t get this mixed up with “Your Values”. Your values in life are different then what I am talking about here and no they are not one and the same.)

It took me a very long time to figure out the difference between “Your Values” and the “Value” you bring to the table.

If you realize the value you bring to the table, to others, and to your own world, in general, you will be in a much better place.

Never doubt that you have value, and never doubt that there is something that only you can bring to the table.

While others may be able to bring similar values to the table, they will never be able to bring the value that “you” can bring to the table.

Once you make this little mindset shift and believe me, my friends, it's not really that big of a shift in your mind, you will be amazed at the huge impact it will have on your life.

You will go from not thinking you have any value or self-confidence, to knowing your value and your self-confidence will be growing exponentially.

So let’s do a quick wrap up of what we’ve been talking about here today.

Better yet let’s use a simple equation to demonstrate:

Mindset + Value = Self Confidence

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It’s really that simple my friends.

So the next time you hear someone say they don’t have a lot of “self-confidence” I hope you will remember this simple equation and I hope you will sit them down and pay this information forward.


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