How The Word “No” Is Your Greatest Weapon Against Bad People

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Have you ever been in this situation before…

Someone is angry with you or upset at something you’ve done or that they perceive you’ve done and they proceed to start talking down to you and telling you everything you’ve done wrong not only in this situation but since the beginning of time basically.

As you try to comment back or get a word in edgewise they escalate their voice and continue to try and talk over you.
They talk over you and at you till you finally decide that this isn’t worth the fight or all of the angry emotions and you go quiet.

Once you go quite they still stay at their same pitch and still are belittling you and telling you the way things are going to be.

At this point, you have decided in your head that you need to let them get this off of their chest and you just take whatever comes out of their mouth.

Your thoughts at this point are usually one of two things:

  1. I just need to go to my happy place where the midget person is riding a play horse and a man or women of your dreams is in a swimsuit holding two pitchers of beer in each hand (or swap that out for whatever is your favorite drink) smiling at you asking how much you’d like to drink and that you should just relax and relieve your stress. (Just in case that sounds vaguely familiar to you I took that from Happy Gilmore the movie with Adam Sandler.)
  2. I’ll take whatever I need to right now to get this to end.

But is this the right thing to do?

  • How many times in your life have you been presented with a confrontation and you either backed down or took a submissive mindset and bowed down to the aggressor?
  • How often do you think this happens in life?
  • Do you know the long term effects this has not only on your way of life but also your mindset?
  • Do you back down to try to keep the peace?

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When did we start backing down from conflicts in our lives?

When did we start letting people talk down to us?

When did we start allowing people to treat us poorly and more importantly when did we start accepting that it is okay?

There is an old song lyric from Megadeth that said:

“Peace sells, but who’s buying?”

In this day and age of everything having to be “Politically Correct” and everyone getting offended by someone looking at them wrongly it seems it is now the norm to not have any conflict in our lives.

I know we all want to limit any conflict or strife in our lives, but is the answer to limit conflict or strife to be submissive and take everyone's crap?

I don’t think so.

I think what happens is we get talked down to and beat down so much in today’s world that we’ve forgotten how to say “ No” and then back that “No” up with action.

  • No, I won't take your crap anymore.
  • No, You will not talk to me like that anymore.
  • No, You will not treat me poorly anymore.
  • No, I will not listen to the garbage you spew out of that hole in your face.
  • No, I am not your emotional rag you can dump on and then throw away when you feel like it.
  • No, I will not let you belittle me.
  • No, I will not allow you to limit me.
  • No, I will not… (You add what you need to right here to make it stop.)

I could go on but I think you get my point.

The secret here my friends are that saying “No” and then having the conviction to stand by that no and the willingness to take action to back that no up is what we need to do if we ever want to stop other people from imposing their will upon us.

No one else can do this for you, my friends.

This is something you have to do on your own.

This is the point where you have to learn to stand up for yourself and that yes, yes, you do have and provide value to this life.

“No” is a very powerful word.

Once you learn how to use it to better yourself you will be so much more free in life.

Once you understand that you are allowing this to happen to you and that only you are the one who can change what is happening to you.

Then, my friends, you will feel the true power that each of us has inside of us.

So the next time you come across this conflict or someone brings conflict and strife to your door what are you going to do?

Are you going to take it and realize later that once again you’ve let this happen to you?


Are you going to say “No” and start putting some action behind your “No” to change your life?

It’s up to you to decide my friends...

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