What Do You Bring To A Friendship?

The question this week is...

"What Do You Bring Most To A Friendship?"

While there are many qualities and things that people can bring to friendship some are always more desired than others.
But, before I get into that I want to be clear with everyone where I am coming at this question from.

I'm coming at this question from the angle of a friendship between two people where that is all it will ever be.

I know some people become friends with others for many reasons some of which are money, or position, or status in life, or power, or there is something they want or need and they see this person and their friendship with this person as a means to an end.

That is not what I am talking about or how I am coming at this question.

I'm coming at this question from two people who want to be friends, who enjoy each others company, and time, and generally want to be in the other person's presence.

So, with that being said I'm going to cut straight to it...

I think the thing I bring most to a friendship is Loyalty.

I'm not a person who has a lot of people who I call my friends.

I have a lot of people who are acquaintances and who I may talk to and have conversations with but very few people I would actually call my friend.

So maybe you're asking yourself right now what is the difference between an acquaintance and a friend to you?

An acquaintance to me is someone I know fairly well and who I can have a good conversation with. It's someone who might think of me from time to time, someone who might check up on me from time to time, someone who might ask me how I'm doing if they sense something is wrong with me, but generally, these people will serve themselves and their needs and desires before they would serve anyone else.

A friend to me is someone I know well and can have a good conversation with but also share my life with. It's someone who is integrated into my life. It's someone I want in my life, someone I want to share my life with.  Good time and bad times friends stand by your side and help you. 

These are the people you can call at 2:30am and tell them you need their help and they don't ask questions they just show with the pickaxe, shovel, and a life-size roll of plastic.

These are the people who are there for you no matter what. These are the people who put their needs and desires aside at times and help you no matter the outcome.

So to my friends, I am very loyal.

If I call you my friend then you know I will be the type of person I described above.

As I said when I started this post...

I don't have many friends, but to the ones I do have, I will always be loyal too and I will always have their back, they never have to wonder where they stand with me or if I am standing with them. 

We may not always agree on everything but our friendship will always be bigger than our little squabbles.

I will always be by their side in good times, and especially be by their sides during the bad times.

When the times are the darkest for them I will be the hand that reaches out and reminds them they are not alone.

A true friend in life is worth more than any money or any material possession you could possibly have.

They are the rare few that will truly get to know "You" in life and get to share your journey with you.

To my friends I say: I love you and will always have your back.

To my acquaintances I say: I hope one day you will hear my say to you "Thank You, My Friend".

Because when you hear me say that to you then you now know what "being my friend" truly means to me, and you also know what I will bring to you for being my friend.

Do me a favor... Before you go leave me a comment below and let me know what you feel you bring to a friendship.

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1 comment:

  1. Thank you my friend / son. I can always count on you - anytime Thanks. Enjoyed the conversation today