The Power Of Conversations

 

I started a new book this past week and I read a statement that made me stop and think.

The statement was this...

"A conversation is an experience in and of itself" 

 Jamie Plesser - (Best Buy Marketing Strategy and Communication)

* The book I'm reading just in case you're interested in it as well is called "Brains On Fire" and it is written by Robbin Phillips, Greg Cordell, Geno Church, and Spike Jones.

I think this is a very interesting statement that Jamie made because I think more and more in our current day people don't really want to have conversations.

I think they are much more interested in something that goes more like this...

You: Hey, how are you doing today? I hope you're doing well.

Them: I'm alright.

You: Well I hope everything is okay and is there anything I can do to help you?

Them: Nah.

You: Is there anything you like to talk about or discuss? I'm willing to listen if you do.

Them: TTYL.

There you go. 

I know there is someone out there right now who is thinking to themselves some of these thoughts...

• I'm just trying to be efficient.
• I don't have time for small talk.
• I'm too busy to talk to this person.
• Why is this person bothering me.
• Why is this person trying to get all up in my business?
• I don't have to tell you anything.
• Can't you see how busy I am?

And the list can go on and on.

Or, the other thing you'll see is that the other person isn't interested in talking to you till they decide it's time to talk then they just lay it all out on you and expect you to sit and listen to them for hours sometimes as they tell you everything they have been saving up or until they feel it's their turn to right some wrong that they see in the world today.

PEOPLE COME ON.

There is an art form to a conversation and just because it's dying out in certain areas of life doesn't mean it isn't valid and has a place in life.

This is also another reason why I think we are having some of the problems we are having in our society and the world as a whole today.

People aren't willing to have conversations with other people let alone conversations that can be helpful not only to themselves but to society and the world as a whole.

Sure we are all busy and I understand at times you might not have time to have a conversation with someone, but let me let you in on a little secret... That's not all of the time.

Just because you feel you're busy doesn't mean you are busier than anyone else.

It also doesn't mean that if someone else is truly trying to have a conversation with you that you can just blow them off and expect them to be an ear for you the next time you feel like puking up everything you got caged up inside of you.

If you don't want to have conversations with other people then that is your choice.

Then when you also feel like you don't have any deep connections with people in your life or that no one wants to listen to your word vomit later don't blame that on them, blame yourself for what you have created.

"Shallow comments and shallow conversations lead to shallow relationships." - (click to share)

It's really that simple folks.

If you want to have deep relationships and have meaningful relationships then you are going to have to have conversations back and forth with people.

Yes, you're going to have to slow down some. You're going to have to choose to have a conversation and be a good listener at times. You're going to have to take some time to have a conversation.

I know this is a revolutionary idea...

You are actually going to have to "choose" to have a conversation with other living people sometimes.

Think of the things you could learn if you had a real conversation with some of these people...

• Your Grandparents.
• Your Parents.
• Your Co-workers.
• Other kids at school.
• The homeless person sitting in the park.
• The person who delivers your mail.
• The person who delivers packages to your home.
• Your neighbors.
• People on social media.

The list can go on and on, but the important thing is you have to choose to have a conversation with other people. 

I know it's a dying art form and believe me I know how hard it is at times to talk to other people whether you know them or not it doesn't matter there are just those times when it's tough to have a conversation.

I would be willing to wager though that if you do make the choice and the time to have a conversation with another person that you will leave that conversation more informed, maybe learned something new, or have a better understanding about something than before you had that conversation.

If you stop and think about it...

Is having a conversation really that bad?

I don't think it is, and I'd encourage you to have even more conversations going forward in your life.

Choose to have conversations and I can promise you your life will continue to get better because of the conversations you choose to have.

One last thing before you go...

* Leave me a comment below of a conversation you need to have with someone or a conversation you are choosing to have with someone in the very near future.