Reasons Why You Should Invest In Training People How To Talk To You

How many times in your life have you let someone talk down to you?

How many times have you listened to someone talk down to you and you thought when they were done that you deserved it?
So many people don’t understand the power of their words and the effect they have on other people.

I know that tone and inflection in a voice also plays a huge part in how we interpret things when we hear them.

So I’m not saying there aren’t many factors to the spoken word, but what I am focusing on today is the actual words being used.

So often we feel that however someone chooses to speak to us is what we have to accept.

When in actuality we don’t have to accept it at all.

We teach people how they can speak to us.

Often we teach them by what we allow, but if we don’t want to continue to be a victim and we want to take control back in our lives then we need to change our mindset and teach people how they are allowed to speak to us.

Do you have to let someone talk down to you? No.

Do you have to take someone belittling you? No.

“But I don’t want to be rude, or cut them off while they are speaking to me.”

I would generally agree with this comment except when someone is talking down to you or trying to belittle you.

That should never be allowed and you should never allow anyone to do that to you. Period.

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If you don’t value yourself then don’t ever expect anyone else to value you either.

If you want to do something small to make a big change in your life start by training people what you will and won’t allow them to say to you.

It doesn’t have to be hard or confrontational it can be as easy as telling someone “That wasn’t very nice to say to me”, or “I’m sorry but you don’t get to speak to me that way”.

This is something I’ve really had to work hard on in my life.

Growing up it was either my parent's way or the highway. There wasn’t any room most of the time for discussion and they spoke to me however they chose to speak to me.

When I got older and went out into the real world my bosses and other authority figures would also talk down to me or belittle me.

It was like a plague I just couldn’t seem to get rid of.

Every time I’d try to speak up or say I didn’t like something they would verbally slap me down and then ramp up the belittling to hold their oppressive control over me.

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I felt like I didn’t have any power to change the situation I was in, and truth be told I didn’t believe I had the power to change my situation.

I don’t know if you know what it feels like to be in that place or not but it’s a very lonely, depressing, and apathetic place to be.

I got to the point where I just accepted it and let it happen.

I was always being taken advantage of and I was always being bossed around.

I became the other person's emotional and verbal rag they could use and throw away whenever they felt like it.

Then I realized THEY ARE NOT THE PROBLEM!!

I AM!!

I’m the one who was allowing this to happen.

I’m the one who was allowing them to talk to me this way.

If I wanted this to change then I had to change the way I attacked the problem.

I had to teach them exactly how I wanted them to speak to me and if I didn’t it was on me not on them.

From that day forward I made a pledge with myself that I wasn’t going to accept anyone talking down to me or belittling me and I don’t care who you are, I just don’t accept it anymore.

If I did it, then I know you can do it too.

Don’t let people talk down to you or belittle you.

Your value in this world is more then you can ever know.

Honor yourself and start showing others that you are a person of value by the way you allow them to speak to you.

I promise you if you do this one small thing it will make a huge difference in your life.