Don't Be Intimidated

The line for this week is...

"Don't be intimidated to say it like it is."

So many people are afraid to say anything today.

Why do you think that is?

  • Our P.C. culture today?
  • The public shaming that takes place if you have a different idea.
  • The reach of social media.
  • How permanent everything is on the Internet today.
I think there are many things that contribute to this fear, but my question is does it have to be that way?

I want to offer up a new idea for your guys to consider...

(Actually, this is a very old idea I'm just trying to bring it back into fashion.)

Why don't we let other people have their opinions and when they voice their opinion if you agree... great.  If you don't agree and feel like you want to say something they ask that person if you can have a discussion about their opinion.

When I say "discussion" that is exactly what I mean. A discussion about the opinion that they hold and how you might see it a little differently.

With the understanding that you are not having an "argument", you are in fact engaging in a discussion.

That means that you can have a discussion like two mature adults, both share your opinions, both have a dialog back and forth, and at the end of the discussion walk away and still be friends.

People can and will often have differing opinions from one another but that doesn't mean that we still can't have a productive conversation about our opinions.

Voice our views and opinions to one another and at the end of the conversation still walk away as friends.

Knowing that maybe Bob looks at this, this way and I look at it a little differently. Neither is necessarily right or wrong they are just different opinions. 

So many times today I think we go into a "Discussion" trying to prove that the other person is wrong and what that turns into as soon as we try to prove the other person is wrong is an "argument".

Are they really wrong?


Is what they are saying is just different from what you believe?

I read a quote one time that said...

"Nothing is ever right or wrong, it is only your opinion."

Now hold up people who are sitting back in their chair right now reading this thinking to themselves, there is a right way and wrong way to do everything in life, or there are some truths in life that just right and we all need to follow them.

To these people, I would say...  Are you sure?

If you go to different cultures or different parts of the world what you think is truth and common sense may not necessarily be truth or common sense to them. 

Does that mean those people are wrong?

I guess if you think they are then that is your opinion, isn't it?

My whole point my friends about talking about the difference between an argument and discussion is this...

If you are willing to have an open discussion with someone then why would you be intimidated to speak your truth?

The correct answer there is you would be intimidated.

So why don't we try to foster more "discussions" in life and far fewer arguments?

I know, I know... 

There was no real revelation there my friends, but sometimes maybe it just takes someone outside of yourself or your inner circle to say something then all of sudden it sinks in and means something to you.

So if you've made it this far I'll leave you with this quote from me...

"Foster More Discussions, And Fewer Arguments For Better And More Productive Communications" - C.S.

I promise you not only will your conversations with other people be better, but you will grow greatly as a person for being able to listen to opposing views, have a discussion, learn something, and leave the conversation still as friends.

"Different isn't bad, it's just different."

I hope this post helps you to have better communications with one another, and to be able to foster and grow more friends with a vastly improved mindset.

1 comment:

  1. Exactly, just speak out your mind, it is indeed your opinion on things ✊🏻👊🏻